It depends, there's a variety of views that can be entertained about single man in this religion. Myself, I'm almost a decade less than age 40, and I occasionally get asked, "what's the deal, Miz?" I've never been thought of as potentially gay as I've never given off that kind of aura, although I have mentioned before on here a girl that sits across from me at work, hesitatingly asked me whether or not I was. She was concerned she'd offend me, and our relationship would go sour. I reassured her that we're still on good terms, but there's not a gay bone in my body. As far as those in the congregation, my own family, and the circuit, I've recieved various reactions as to why the hell I'm still single. Check this out.
My father, "Miz, you know the longer you hold off on getting married, the chances increase that you'll either end up alone or marry someone with significant baggage. Such as ready-made families(woman with kids), or disabilities whether mental or physical." Gee, thanks dad!
My mother, "Why don't you marry a white girl? You know you like white girls, and you're in denial about it. You just don't like asking white girls out, do you? That's what it is. I remember when you and that one girl that got disfellowshipped, what's her name. Darnett!! You know who I'm talking about!! Whatever happened to her anyway?" If you ever wondered what would happen if self-hatred and cultism miscegenated, here's a fitting example.
When I give talks away, I usally leave during the WT Study, or the break song. The reason is, I'm uncomfortable with people telling me how talented I am, or when I'll be giving talks at the assembly. I don't like that kind of attention. Another thing is, people try hooking up with me, or hooking me up. I can't stand that. I was once at a popular resteraunt down here, and there was a ton of JWs from neighboring congregations, so I hung out with them. The one brother's daughter hit it off with me, and I noticed that a business connect of this brother gave me the look. The look in his eyes stated, "Dude, she's yours for the taking. You better handle that." She was attractive too, and I enjoyed her company. But my situation just isn't appropriate at this time as I don't know whether or not I'm hanging around this religion.
Multiple Circuit Overseers, "Miz, what's your goals? Considering MTS School?" Most recently, "Miz, what's your goals? You're single brother, sky's the limit in Jehovah's organization. Have you considered the Bible School for Single Brothers? You should consider it, Miz! You really should!"
Old Friends that I occasionally run into, "You married or have any kids, Miz? No, ok good, stay that way. Wish I did the same as you! HaHaHa."
Older Pioneer Sister who tried backdooring some information about me by talking with my father. She asked him, "What does Miz do? Does he want to get married?" My dad and I still laugh about this, because he just started running off at the mouth. I accused him of snitching on me. That's my dad though, and I love him. That pioneer sister knows she'll never crack me, and she's tried, at one point even pissing me off to the point that she wanted to apologize to me and I avoided her doing such as I found it demeaning to her. Our relationship is much better now since I keep my distance.
Older male workmates in blue collar settings. "You married, Miz? No, good, don't ever do it. Worst thing ever!!"
Older male workmates in white collar settings. "You married, Miz? No, well there's nothing wrong with waiting. You'll make a great husband and father. I've been married 15 years, and I love it." Occasionally some white collar workmates will express what I heard often amongst the blue collared crowd. It confuses me to be honest with you.
Girl at work I did some training with on Friday, "I can tell you don't have kids." I replied, "what's that supposed to mean? Do I have a stamp across my forehead that says, childless?" She laughed and said, "No, I don't mean it in a bad way, I can just tell you don't have any kids." I don't know what the hell she's talking about, but I'm not exactly reassured at the moment.
JW friend who is a decade older than me, and who ran with the cool JWs when I was on the comeup. Seen me one day at the mall, this was several years ago, and I was talking with this worldy girl when I saw him. We started talking and he told me, "Miz, be careful, don't mess up." He meant it sincerely, and he's a good dude. I love him as he could tell what my intentions where, and they weren't good. He has a beautiful wife and son. His son is as cute as he can be. Looks like a little Al.B.Sure. We were working at the hall doing some yard work, and this little fella wasn't even knee high, and he had his gloves on. The sisters gave him the job of patting the dirt around the flowers after they got planting. He took his job so seriously, like a professional, cutest thing I've seen. Warmed my heart.
On the other hand, I know single brothers who were married at one point in the truth, and after their marriages dissolved, I've notice a common trend with them. They have absolutely, NO INTENTION on ever getting married again. JW men after getting burned are like independent women who've been burned one too many times. They value their independence and are A-ok dying that way too.